Why did God make woman? Ep. 2

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” -Martin Luther King.

In the blog post, “Why did God make woman?” by “Biblical genderroles.com), BG talks about how women are not equal to men, are man’s property, and other bllsh*t. Today, I will try an “essay-like” approach (Statement, Explain, Xample) to respond to BG’s post and to give a clearer and more accurate interpretation of what the bible actually says. But first, please remember to like, follow and comment.

Back to the essay-like approach- I believe that God made women to subjugate the earth alongside men, to be their own person, to do all the good things that God had planned for them to do and to generally live a good and blessed life here on earth. My evidence of this comes from personal experience, bible study tools.com, Google, common sense, a response video by Jimmy/Mr Atheist and the AMP (amplified) bible version. Here goes:

We start with Mitochondrial Eve

The word/name “Eve” is in Hebrew, “Chavvah” which means “life” or “life giving”. Eve was to be the mother of all human beings. But, did Eve actually exist once upon a time? While I can’t prove Jesus’ genealogy, I do know that mitochondrial eves exists and this is more than just one “Eve”, but this is talking about multiple (mitochondrial) eves of which from a common ancestor/s descended all of us. According to Jimmy’s video, there are multiple mitochondrial eves right now today, who will be ancestors of all the people that will live in the future in about a few thousand years.

By the way, it might be good to make clear that just because Eve is also a “mitochondrial eve”, doesn’t mean that this is the role or purpose of every woman out there. But even though not all women will ever reproduce and choose the journey of motherhood, I’m sure we’re all connected in some way and we all share DNA. Or at least, I predict this, since I can’t prove it.

More profound questions from the blog post:

Let’s see if you can answer these questions before I reveal to you what the bible says according to this blog post. Here are the questions:

  1. But what kind of companion did God design her to be to him?
  2. And what kind of helper did God design her to be to him?
  3. Did God intend for her to be an equal partner with her husband
  4. and equal helper with him?
  5. Or did he intend something else?

Hmm…it’s so difficult to answer.

Here’s my take on this:

  1. We are all equal under God’s eyes. One evidence of this is that we all go through death. Even the people in the Bible who didn’t get buried still had to leave earth.  No one is more favored than the other. We are equal. We just don’t exercise equality.
  2. We were all designed to take care of the earth, animals, and people together, in unity and harmony, as people with the same goal.
  3. We are equal but God intends something specific for you and me because we are different and we’re interested in different things.

Did I get a bullseye? Let’s see what they say.

6:36 (to follow along with Jimmy).

The blog post jumps over to the second book of the bible, Exodus. At this time of the biblical story, the Hebrews, God’s people, are in the wilderness/desert and God gives them the Ten Commandments. From this moment on, the Hebrews no longer live under grace but they now live under the law. Also during this time, and for many decades, there has been a distinct difference in the role between man and woman, male and female. This is for cultural reasons specifically for the Hebrews, but also because back then, there just were these roles for men and women.

The last commandment, which can be found in Exodus 20:17, is also known as a “thought crime” in which we must not covet, desire or even think about wanting something that a neighbor owns. We must not want their house, servant, donkey or boat. (the boat is a modern-day example). We also must not want for ourselves, our neighbor’s wife.

I see this as a way to protect wives and because in those days and also to this day, men tend to think they can take and do whatever the h*ll they want. But the blog post and unfortunately a lot of religious people believe that because women are grouped together with property, that it means they are inferior to men. This is one of the many dangers of wrongly interpreting the bible.

The last bit of the verse in the AMP says, “…or anything your neighbor owns.”, which further cements the idea that women are property and are to be owned. Oh, contrare (did I do that right?), women, girls, females, and wives are NOT property just like how servants aren’t property either. But perhaps this was part of the Hebrew culture back in the day. Perhaps when we say that husbands own their wives, it is not in an “I’m better than you” kind of way but is more because they do own and belong to each other because of their union in matrimony. Just spitballing here.

Much like how, in my last blog post of this series, “biblicalgenderroles” used the Gen 2:18-23 verses to justify how women were made to be helpers, not equals to men, they’re using another stand-alone verse again, to justify how women were AND STILL ARE property, and therefore, are not equal to men in any way, shape or form. I’ll cover this in the next blog post.

However, I could create a counter argument using the bible but just different verses. So it’s important to, first of all, be holistic when reading the bible instead of looking at it as an instruction manual made in the Bronze age, that’s still completely relevant to follow for 21st Century people. The second thing is, KNOW YOUR SH**!

So that’s all the time we have for this episode. I’m hoping my third episode will be the last because I’m sick of this sh*t.

And now, it’s detox time…



Happy Lunar new year!

I didn’t write a New Year’s post but I’m on time to CNY (Chinese or Lunar new year), and that’s what’s most important. Although technically, 2019 began on October 15th, the day I turned 22.


Here are a few changes that I intend to make on my blog:

  1. More of Jesus, less of me

I will be writing more on spirituality instead of on random things that are happening in my life. But I’ll still be random and stuff, just not as often as before.

2. Colours

Should I choose a different look for my blog? I definitely feel like I need a new outlook on life. We’ll see but I’m not paying for anything.

3. Connection

Please! I’m so lonely here! Please do connect with me this year by leaving comments down below. I’m also going to be more annoying by reminding you to follow me if you like my content, and comment if you like…uh…my personality?

And I’m also going to be a reader. It’s not fair on anyone if I only ask for readers and I myself don’t read. Fun fact: I’m ten times more likely to read and comment on your blog if you do the same first. Just saying. And hinting. Wink.

4. Write about what matters

This is similar to the 1st bullet point except that apart from spirituality, I’ll be covering topics that may not personally interest me but my stance and my viewpoints on these topics are important. I compare this to that poem about how the Jews were mistreated and no one did anything and then finally we were mistreated and there was no one left to help us. Yeah, it’s like that. Gotta care about the jews. I’ll see if I can find the original poem because my memory of it is not good enough.

5. Apologies

Lots of apologies are coming your way because of some of my blog posts which advocates on views that I no longer hold. Apologies also, as a Christian. I may not have done anything wrong personally but by calling myself a Christian, I’m partially responsible for all the sh*t that’s out there in the world.

6. You may also see more cussing and slang. I’m letting my hair down this 2019.

I hope I don’t cuss too much because if it’s ‘normal’, then it loses its significance.

So there you have it. 6 changes coming to this blog. I’m excited. I’m happy. I’m cringing and in pain a little bit. Like a massage.

Let’s connect

Attention all bloggers!

Let’s connect 🙂

IF you visit my blog, I would love to return the favour.

I’m always on the lookout for a good and tasty read.

I can visit your blog when you leave a comment. I’m not saying this just to have comments (although I do feel a bit lonely sometimes). I’m saying this because I can click on your name and that will bring me to your website. You could also leave a link to your website in your comments as well.

Thank you all.

PS: Are you looking forward to this year’s Christmas?


Happy Birthday poem

To those of you who were born on this day,

a merry happy birthday to you.

May all your wishes come true

Be filled with happiness and

joy, peace, love.


Happy, happy, happy birthday to you,

the Lord bless you, prosper you,

Happy birthday to you

and Happy Birthday to me too!




Keep at it

Something that I’ve learned from writing is to keep at it even if you think you suck.

Here on Wattpad, we don’t just battle with suckability, but with readers. Because this is a social community, like Facebook for writers, having no readers or coments can suck. It can feel lonely. We depend on comments to see whether or not we should continue with a story instead of asking ourselves what we want to do.

Here’s something: write for yourself not for other people.
That way, even if no one reads your stuff, you have one very important reader who loves what you dish out and that’s you.

If you love what you do, if you do it even when you’re sick of it, then don’t stop and don’t give up no matter what.

It’s harder than it sounds.

How can you write if you’re stuck on the story and you don’t know where to go from here?

When I say “don’t stop writing” it doesn’t mean to keep writing the story because that might not be possible right now.

But it does mean to write something down as long you don’t stop practising the craft completely.

Whatever it means to you, don’t stop writing.
This could mean writing the shopping list, in your diary, comments etc.  Could mean poems even if you usually
write novels. I used to write novels but now I write at the most ten story chapters. That’s not even a novella. (A novella is 20k to 50k and a short story is under 20k. My stories are ten k or less).

And one day, some say, you’ll get there because dreams come true.

But you’ve got to be kind to yourself, have courage and “never let the fear of as striking out keep you from playing the game.”

The sentence in quote marks, is from the film, “a Cinderella story” and the girl played by Hillary duff, remembers playing baseball with her dad. The sign (the quote on the wallpaper underneath the new ripped wallpaper), gives her the courage to finally stand up for herself against her step mum and say “no” to her demands. She does something for herself because in that moment, she knew she had to live her life, and not let being scared of failure, stop her.

This quote is by Babe Ruth. He was a baseball player. He didn’t give up. He kept at it.

Keep at it.



What shows your true character?

A boy tells the bus driver he’s going to kill himself today before leaving the bus. A four-year-old go unsupervised to the swimming pool and drowns. A seven-year-old boy is on a sled, on top of a grassy hill, directly aimed at the fence instead of the tires (the safe spot).

What do you do? If we were to do nothing to intervene and something bad happened, would it be your fault?

What does your inactivity show about your true character?

This is one dilemma I’ve been facing for a few weeks. Because I’ve ever experienced times when I was unaware that my character and my morals were being tested. I was unaware that I play any significant part in the lives of other people.

Sometimes, I still experience times when I’m unaware and oftentimes, it’s too late to catch myself before something bad happens.

The truth is, I feel bad, even guilty that these things happened on my watch. Let’s be a bit specific and zone into one example: The seven-year-old boy in a sled on top of a grassy hill. He clearly was not aiming for the tires where he’d be safe. As a result of his stupidity and also mine, he hit the fence, resulting in a deep gash on his eyebrow.

I know what any good-hearted adult might be thinking; You should feel guilty. You shouldn’t be anywhere near kids if you’re not going to supervise them.

But does this incident truly show my true character? I’d like to think that I’m kind, caring and actually good with kids. This incident doesn’t exactly show my ideal values and character traits.

Am I, therefore, someone who shouldn’t be anywhere near kids? Am I heartless to have not stopped the kid before he had gained momentum on the sled?

Is it my imagination, or did I really just watch what happened while rubbing my hands together in evil glee? Like I wanted to see what would happen. Like I wanted him hurt so that he’d learn the lesson. I mean, that’s worse than tough love. That’s just cruel. Right?

I don’t know. Maybe I’m moping. Maybe if I were a more experienced leader I’d had known without a doubt what to do regardless of my own life. I say that because frankly running down the steep hill means facing a whole heap of fears, heights being one of them.

Or maybe I should’ve known. Deep down, I knew and I could’ve prevented the disaster that followed.

This then makes me think of spectator bullies and why they exist.

Spectator bullies are people who know that a person is a victim of bullying but they don’t do anything about it. This is usually out of fear of becoming a victim themselves but it can also be to do with, stubbornness, laziness, and not caring about someone who’s not in their inner circle of friends.

Maybe the reason why I didn’t help the boy wasn’t that I wanted to see him hurt and get stitches. But maybe it was because of my own fears and insecurities. Even though I value kindness and helping others, when it came down to these values being tested, my doubts and fears inhibited me and stopped me from what I believed would be a futile cause. After all, it’s not like the boy would’ve listened to me, right? I guess I’ll never know.

I think for this one, even though it was a horrific experience, I need to forgive myself. But for next time, I need to be more secure in myself and my abilities to lead so that I can better supervise and in turn, keep the children that are in my care, safe and happy.

You turn:

I think I might start doing more “your turn” things. I’d like you to reflect on this post and on your own life. Have there ever been times when you were a spectator bully or even just a spectator when you should’ve taken the main role? A time when what you did or didn’t do, did not align with who you really are or at least, who you want to be?








4,200 religions in the world

There is an estimate of 4,200 religions in the world. I know this because I googled, “How many religions in the world” and this was what had turned up. The question is, why do I choose Christianity? how can I say that this religion out of 4,200 religions is the ‘correct’ one? This is a hard and difficult question to answer. But it’s one I’m willing to try to answer, even if I only touch the tip of the iceberg.

Out of 4,200 religions in the world, how can I say that the God I believe in is the true God?

I don’t like writing posts with a lot of words. I wonder if anyone’s noticed. Anyways, I’ll try and keep this short yet informative.

  1. Every single religion in the world is a religion. My religion is a relationship with the creator of the universe.
  2. Not every religion actually helps people grow and be better people. But Jesus changes lives. He helps us develop love, faith, and hope in ourselves and we then share this with other people.
  3. Most religions are built on fear but my foundation is Jesus. I say, ‘most religions’ because I don’t know what every religion is like. But I can say from the ones I do know, fear is a great motivator. God does want us to fear him, but this fear is not the same as being scared. “Fear”, in this sense, means to ‘worship’. Truly, God is worthy to be worshipped.
  4. In most religions, you can see the God/idol, but for what I believe in, I can’t see him with my physical eyes. I see by faith and not by sight.
  5. And finally, the icing on the cake: God is all about love and grace. No other God gives mercy. Only the true God is able to say, “Neither do I condemn you” without condoning our actions either.

Your turn

I don’t normally do this. In fact, as much as I’d love to chat, this just feels weird to speak directly to you. But as this post is quite provocative and I’ve only scratched the surface, I’d like to know what your thoughts are. Perhaps you have other things to add to the list or things to expand. Perhaps you’re not a Christians and in that case, have something entirely to offer. Feel free to write a comment down below. If it’s too provocative, then of course, please feel free to be silent.




Myths on Christianity debunked Part one

Hi everyone. This post is a little bit provocative, just warning you in advance. Also, please note before reading this post that I don’t have all the answers so you may not be completely satisfied with the title “debunked” and what’s actually in this post. Before I begin listing myths on Christianity, here’s something everyone should know:

People who become atheists, or for that matter, Buddhists, Muslims etc. were never true Christians, to begin with. (Tweet this with caution).

A true Christian is a person who has a relationship with God. You CANNOT have a relationship with God and then one day, POOF, God doesn’t exist or has ever existed. Therefore, this relationship you had with him, never existed. It was all your imagination.

No, it doesn’t work that way.

Here are a few myths that I will debunk:

  1. You need to tell people about Jesus otherwise they’ll go to hell

So many people fear hell and death. They do things because of this fear. In fact, they’re manipulated because of this fear. But telling your loved one what to believe because you fear for their lives, is not a good reason to tell them about Jesus. Jesus conquered death. He defeated the only weapon that Satan had at his disposal. We don’t need to fear death anymore. We certainly don’t need to fear hell. Even though when we believe in Jesus, we receive salvation and eternal life, but being a Christian is so much more than living forever. It’s about love, hope, joy and having a relationship with God.

2. If you’re a Christian, you have to be anti-gay

Okay, I admit some Christians are a little old school in their thinking. There’s no way to persuade them or any one person that being gay is okay and not a sin. For me, I don’t know if it’s a sin or not. It’s not that clear-cut. But I don’t think it’s something God would hold against anyone.

This means that because we don’t know whether or not being gay is a sin- it’s not as crystal clear as we know that killing another person is wrong- homosexuals can come to God as themselves and He will accept them.

Again, this issue largely connects with the first myth. So many people hate God and the idea of God because they know that if He was real, then they’d go to hell. There are too many rules and restrictions. There’s no breathing space. That’s far from the truth.

On one hand, the decision to follow Jesus is a matter of choosing life or death. But on the other hand, it’s not about hell or heaven.

So many people ask “I’m a ___, does that mean I’ll go to hell?”

Get that out of your mind! As far as I’m concerned, Jesus defeated hell. He went to hell so that we wouldn’t have to.

To debunk this myth, no. A big “NO!”. You don’t have to be against gays in order to be a Christian. You can even be gay and still be a Christian. It may not be easy but here’s another thing for you to think about:

Don’t leave your relationship with God because of society (Tweet this.)

There are going to be some Christians who are absolutely horrible people. Likewise, there will be plenty of atheists, Muslims and Buddhists who are so kind and caring. Even though God made us to be social creatures, but never ever let how someone behaves to dictate your relationship with God.

For example, say you’re a Christian but you have a gay friend. You have nothing wrong with homosexuality. However, everyone around you, you see fellow Christians who are against gays. That means they’re against your friend. Sure, that would sting, hurt, maybe even be frustrating. But regardless of their actions and beliefs, God is a constant. Don’t leave him because of other people. You’re not cherry picking or selecting bits of the bible that sounds good to you and ignoring other things just because you’re not anti-gay. Being sheep means being God’s people. It doesn’t mean following each other because of peer pressure.

The question I always ask when I see or hear or experience something that doesn’t sit right with me:

Is this enough to make me turn away from my relationship with God forever? (Tweet this)

The answer is always, “no”. This is no matter how much wrongdoing there is in the world or how “out of faith” I feel.

3. In the book, “Leviticus”, it says to put homosexuals to death. The bible also condones rape, murder, and slavery. Therefore, morality does not come from this book.


The only thing I will say right now is a lot of people who read the bible are not trained enough to do so. I’ve said in a previous post that “bible interprets bible”. Another truth is, “Context is key.”

That’s all I’m going to say on that. Anybody wants to debunk this further, feel free.

Oh, I will say one thing: The cost of sin (doing bad things) is death.

That’s what “Condemn” means.

‘Condone’ means to ‘sweep our wrongdoings under a rug’.

Does this look like ‘condone’ to you?

No, I didn’t think so. BOOYAH!

That’s all the time we have for this post. It’s very long compared to my other ones. That’s probably because one thing that I’m passionate about is the issue of Christians becoming non-christians way too easily. It’s a great sadness. On the other hand, it gives me something to talk about. Something that I believe is worth sharing and talking about.









Finland: I want to teach here

I’m studying to become a primary teacher. I’m an undergraduate which means this is my first year. I’m very interested in how different countries tackle education. Finland has proven to be very good at producing people who not only know a lot of things but have good character. They can think for themselves and essentially, are able to more easily and readily have their own identity. As a future teacher, how the Finland education system worked really interested me. It made me want to teach there. The icing on the cake or the cherry on top that really made me interested was that teachers in Finland were respected. And all the teachers in virtually every other country goes, “Heck yeah!”.

We’re not babysitters. This is not a daycare that we’re running. But we clearly don’t get the respect that teachers in Finland receive. Clearly. I particularly love how teachers use their free time to develop their pedagogy. In other words, they’re always learning about how to teach and how to do it better. Other things I loved in the video (I’ve paraphrased):

Maths teacher: I want my students to be happy

Principal: I want my students to play


Question time:

I don’t normally do this, but I’d like to hear my readers’ thoughts on this. What do you think of Finland’s education? Does this work because Finland is so small or could bigger countries adopt the Finland way?

Mothers aren’t naggers

I went to week one of Camp Raglan April holidays 2018 from 14th to 21st. During this time, I learned a lot about Moses, the exodus, what it takes to be a great leader and how to best look after children. I learned that sometimes it’s okay to break a child’s trust if it means asking for help. I also learned courtesy of my team of girls, that mothers don’t nag, they help.

I had to tell these 9-year-old girls every day the same instruction. Make your bed properly. Put on your shoes outside. It seemed I was telling them off for doing or not doing the same thing every day. This got me frustrated which led to me telling them off even more for the littlest of things.

At one point, I felt broken inside. Broken out of frustration that they weren’t listening. But also broken because I had to scold and scold and that wasn’t the kind of leader I wanted to be.

What my role was to these girls reminded me of my mum and how I don’t usually listen to her instructions either. I reminded myself every day, “when I come back home, I’ll listen to mum. Really listen and do what she says.”

When camp finally ended, I went back to my church. My mum was waiting for me and we said our goodbyes to the other campers and got in the car. While in the car, we talked about lunch. It was at this moment that I realized something very important about my mum; she was not a nagger. No, she was bestowing upon me words of wisdom and advice more valuable than the finest gold.

Mothers aren’t naggers. They’re wisom bearers. (Why not tweet this for Mother’s day?)

This revelation made me feel better about myself and how I acted as a leader. After all, I wasn’t nagging them, I was bestowing words of wisdom and advice. Even if I didn’t always do this with a cool head, but I believe I did learn and grow as a leader while I was at camp. That is a priceless lesson and one that I will take with me every day of my life and in the next camp too.