My life post-cult: Back to normality

Lauren Drain belonged to one of the few families who came into WBC instead of being born into it. I can’t say much except reiterate what Lauren says in this video on “Chicago ideas week”.

Here are a few issues that she touches on and that I want to talk about.

It’s okay to ask questions

This is something I had to slowly learn and experience myself as a christian and it is why this year’s blog theme is on spirituality. It’s because I’m not afraid anymore to ask questions. I can ask big, small or ridiculous questions. God doesn’t mind. God doesn’t get intimated by them being asked, so I’m not going to be scared by being the one to ask these questions. A lot of churches don’t like people asking questions that they can’t answer but in WBC, this is brought to the extreme.

If we don’t ask questions, then we lose the chance to become critical thinkers and to change the world in a good way.

WBC tears families apart

I’ve covered this a little bit though I didn’t address it like I am doing now. WBC tears apart their own family (Phelps) and other families who are brought into this lie, this deluded fantasy.

I’ve watched enough WBC videos to know that time and time again, WBC breaks up families. They don’t want any communication with their own family members who have been cast out of the church.

No wonder it’s difficult to leave! It’s not that they believe the signs they’re holding up or feel comfortable with praying for people to die.  But they’re there to stay with their family. Those people who were forced to leave, must miss their parents and siblings and friends.

But at the same time, it’s better to take your chances with the outside world than to remain in a really bad life with so much judgement and limitations.

It’s worse on the inside than it is on the outside

Lauren gave a brief insight into what life is like inside the church and it seems that they’re more judgemental to each other than they are to the funerals they picket at and generally the people they annoy, argue and then sue.

But let’s be cautious to celebrate or slow to smile at this because, well, at the end of the day, we’re all human, we all (or most of us) come from flawed and dysfunctional families. This is just like any dysfunctional family, it’s just ten times worse. That’s all.

So while they’ve evoked many emotions in me over the weeks that I’ve learned and written about them, I must say, my biggest emotion I feel towards them is pity. I feel sorry for them and this family, who hate everyone including themselves.

I’m going to take a break from writing about WBC so expect something new next week and then I’ll continue for maybe one or two more weeks. I don’t want to give them more publicity after all.

What do you think about WBC or about Lauren so far? Would you ever join a cult? If you liked this blog post, please hit the like and follow button. If you have any questions or comments, please leave them too. I’d love to hear from you.

 

 

Happy Lunar new year!

I didn’t write a New Year’s post but I’m on time to CNY (Chinese or Lunar new year), and that’s what’s most important. Although technically, 2019 began on October 15th, the day I turned 22.

ANYWAY,

Here are a few changes that I intend to make on my blog:

  1. More of Jesus, less of me

I will be writing more on spirituality instead of on random things that are happening in my life. But I’ll still be random and stuff, just not as often as before.

2. Colours

Should I choose a different look for my blog? I definitely feel like I need a new outlook on life. We’ll see but I’m not paying for anything.

3. Connection

Please! I’m so lonely here! Please do connect with me this year by leaving comments down below. I’m also going to be more annoying by reminding you to follow me if you like my content, and comment if you like…uh…my personality?

And I’m also going to be a reader. It’s not fair on anyone if I only ask for readers and I myself don’t read. Fun fact: I’m ten times more likely to read and comment on your blog if you do the same first. Just saying. And hinting. Wink.

4. Write about what matters

This is similar to the 1st bullet point except that apart from spirituality, I’ll be covering topics that may not personally interest me but my stance and my viewpoints on these topics are important. I compare this to that poem about how the Jews were mistreated and no one did anything and then finally we were mistreated and there was no one left to help us. Yeah, it’s like that. Gotta care about the jews. I’ll see if I can find the original poem because my memory of it is not good enough.

5. Apologies

Lots of apologies are coming your way because of some of my blog posts which advocates on views that I no longer hold. Apologies also, as a Christian. I may not have done anything wrong personally but by calling myself a Christian, I’m partially responsible for all the sh*t that’s out there in the world.

6. You may also see more cussing and slang. I’m letting my hair down this 2019.

I hope I don’t cuss too much because if it’s ‘normal’, then it loses its significance.

So there you have it. 6 changes coming to this blog. I’m excited. I’m happy. I’m cringing and in pain a little bit. Like a massage.