Sri Lanka, terrorists and pure angst

It’s been a week since the Sri Lankan terrorist attack. I’m sorry for being late in publicly condemning this cowardice act of terror. My thoughts and prayers goes out to the families who have been affected. Who haven’t been affected by terrorism?

Terrorist attacks are now more frequent than before. Although I’m still sad, but my reaction has gone from fear and sadness, to great Great anger.

Who do they think they are?

It’s madness, it’s horrible and on all days, it had to be on Easter.

My heart is heavy with sadness, sorrow and a feverish anger. Terrorists must be stopped at all costs. I don’t know what we can do about it but I just wanted to voice out my strong feelings on this.

It grieves me that the world has come to this. All the money, glamour, and Netflix can’t hide away the very big problems that we have. Terrorism, kidnapping, murder, rape, human trafficking and suicide. There are more problems that we have than just this small list. It’s got to stop. I don’t offer solutions but I just want to shout out to someone or something to stop the madness.

Stop.

 

 

 

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Camp April nanowrimo update: It’s not looking good

My book for camp April Nanowrimo is not looking too good. I haven’t been working on it since the first day. On the first of April, I wrote a lot of words, like, 6,000 words in two sessions. It was awesome. I was tired and I thought I’m definitely not doing this every day. And I didn’t.

Back then, I was writing a story called, “Lizarm”. But over this last week, I have been working on a different story. It’s the very first story that I tried to write 9 years ago when I decided I wanted to become a writer. I wrote a list of all the ways I had failed in the past, getting my inspiration and motivation from the wise words of Edison.

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That made me feel better. It felt more like a science experiment, using the PPDAC cycle, rather than writing an impossibly long story.

I’ve written 6,000 words in the past week but I haven’t added them to my word count on the Camp website. This is because I’m not counting my words and I’m not looking to win. I’ve been a lot more relaxed that way. I’m still doing camp and enjoying every minute of it. But this time, it’s not going to be about winning. It’s going to be about the quality of the words. -writing something I can actually go back later and edit.

So, I’ve changed course a little bit, and set a course for a different destination than the one I had in mind but it’s all worthwhile because I’m a writer. That’s all that matters.

 

Give in order to get

I go on Wattpad infrequently. For a social networking site, it can be pretty quiet. I don’t have a lot of readers or friends there but if there’s ever a story in my head, Wattpad is where I go to write and release them. It’s the safe haven for writers and readers.

On the flip side, there’s a lot more activity when I become a reader, not a writer. Through this, I learned that you’ve got to give in order to get.

My reasons for giving are pretty shallow-I want more readers and followers. I’m giving with the intention of getting something in return. I can’t change this about myself or force myself to not want these petty things.

So what’s the solution?

Stop reading because I’m doing it for the wrong reasons?

The only problem with this is as a writer, I do get something out of reading. After all, if you don’t have the time to read, you don’t have the tools to write.

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But what frustrates me about giving is feeling lonely. Everyone is looking out for themselves. Even saying “Hello” on someone’s wall is always followed by, “please read my book”. They’ll only talk to me if when replying to a comment that I write on their book. When is it my turn to feel the spotlight, the glory, the recognition.

And yet, going undetected can be a good thing. As I’m learning the hard way, I’m not ready to have beta readers. I’m still writing and that’s a long process that takes dedication and intrinsic motivation, not comments and reactions.

Another benefit to giving is that I enjoy the giving. Even as I am frustrated with waiting for my turn that may never come, with waiting for reciprocity that again, might never be realised, I enjoy reading. I’m not reading any stories for the sake of popularity. I’m reading stories that interests me. Stories that are exciting, gripping and turns their own pages.

After I write this post, I’m still going to have my frustrations, my impatience, my loneliness, but I will remind myself that I’ve got to give before I can receive. And truth be told, If I’m not reading a lot, then my writing isn’t going to be so good either.

So, I know this might be cliche, but really, who’s giving who? The reader or the writer?

 

 

 

 

Good alternatives to F$%# you

Here are some words that teachers (or anyone) can use when the heat is on and the anger inside you rises up. You don’t want to insult the (annoying, angry-headed, stupid) kid, so instead, you say something that doesn’t offend anyone but they know what you mean. You can teach kids to swear like this too. Well, I mean, it’s best they didn’t know these words but you’d be surprised what they know (and are not supposed to know). This is the better and good alternative for everyone. Well, except for those people who never swear and those on tv.

Good alternatives to F$%# you

  1. Fidget spinners
  2. Brussel sprouts
  3. Tartar Sauce (Credit goes to: Spongebob)
  4. Honey, ketchup and mustard sauce in a salad
  5. Sugar, honey, iced tea
  6. Good lemon squeezers
  7. Shivers
  8. Butterflies, caterpillars, and birds
  9. Losing my marbles when I didn’t have any in the first place because my mother never bought me any
  10. Hop scotchy kazaam

 

These alternatives are designed to help teachers and children to not swear, not offend but still vent out their anger when “I feel” statements are not good or expressive enough in the moment of pure rage and anger.

Most of the words are random, but some of them are meant to be silly, so that anger can be replaced by laughter, when you realised that what you just said was ridiculous.

It may seem crazy, but I have this theory that in the heat of the moment, in the utter most intensity of the crisis or whatever, the best thing to do, is to be ridiculous and laugh.

Example:

I was teaching my year 1 students maths and they were getting a bit restless. I was embarrassed and angry and was about to tell them that (the angry part), when the number board fell off the table and hit the ground. I got such a shock. Then one of the boys-who-had-been-about-to-get-into-trouble, brightened up and laughed. What could I do but smile back and laugh along. What a fumble! But sometimes, you need that. You need someone to fart, or burp, or tell a ridiculous and off topic story, just to get the funny bone going.

A relaxed class is a fun class and students will more likely be able to get more work done than in an intense classroom environment.

 

Mahi Tahi: Relational approaches to learning

This is an introduction to Mahi Tahi, one of the course papers that I’m studying. I wanted to write this post and subsequent posts on this subject because Mahi Tahi is one of the few subjects that I have to take and that interests me. The other two is Maths and English, so you know how that is.

Mahi Tahi is all about helping students learn and disciplining them in a relational and positive way, rather than using anger or sarcasm. I’ve seen really poor classroom management in the class, mostly by teachers who said that they don’t have a classroom management plan. Shocker! I know. And completely not practical for me.

For me, (and I’m sure I got this off a book somewhere), classroom management and learning are interconnected. You can’t teach without addressing behaviour issues. This supports research that says the first step towards learning anything, is “reach and teach”. The “reach” part is about relationships between student and student, student and teacher , and relationship with ourselves. In order to teach students and gain their attention for learning to happen, we must first meet their needs one of them being the need to belong in a group. This can happen through good relationships. It makes sense that if students like the people they have to be with everyday, and can work well with people who may not be in their ‘group’, then students are more likely to give teachers their attention and in turn, learn a thing or two.

This is just an introduction so I hope it wasn’t too much information crammed into a post. I told you, it’s interesting, and I hope it is the same for you as well.

I will be writing more Mahi Tahi posts so be on the lookout for that.

Four domains of spirituality

It’s really annoying for me that I can’t remember what book I originally got this information from. But on the bright side, Google has everything. 

There are four domains of spirituality and these are:

  • Personal-relation with self
  • Communal- relation with others
  • Environment -relation with the environment
  • Transcendent- the God stuff or transcendence

Let’s skip the argument over whether or not there is such thing as spirituality and spiritual things. Let’s dive deeper into these four domains to gain a clearer understanding on what they are and how we can have spiritual well being in all four domains.

Personal-relation with self

Personal domain—wherein one intra-relates with oneself with regards to meaning, purpose and values in life. Self-awareness is the driving force or transcendent aspect of the human spirit in its search for identity and self-worth.

The personal domain is about the big questions in life such as What’s my purpose? Why do I exist? What is the meaning of life? It also includes:

  • questions about self and life
  • Purpose
  • Values
  • Self awareness
  • Self identity and self worth
  • Journey of discovery

A lot of people go on journey of discovering and finding out who they are and what they’re made of. I’d place a bet that the reason why people enter mid life crisis is because so far, they had been participating in the Rat Race while at the same time, ignoring these questions. Now, they are in a point in their life where they can’t ignore their self awareness anymore. Who are they and why are they here?

Don’t ignore the questions you may have even if they’re scary questions. Face them head on and gain understanding and knowledge. Find out who you are and what you’re made of. What are your values? What do you want out of life?

Communal Domain-relation with others

Communal domain—as shown in the quality and depth of interpersonal relationships, between self and others, relating to morality, culture and religion. These are expressed in love, forgiveness, trust, hope and faith in humanity.

The relationships we have with the people around us is not only a physical thing but has a spiritual aspect to it as well. In christian culture, we say that our relationships have three people, me, you and Jesus.

Jesus is always in the centre of every relationship that we form because without him, there’s no chance that the relationship would last.

However, I believe this because I’m dependent on Jesus. Whether or not you’re a christian like me, or a strong atheist with an atheist youtube channel, you can form long lasting relationships. Just know that there’s a spiritual aspect to it.

I love learning about this domain because for many years, one thing I believed was that morals come from the bible. However, people who do not read or follow the bible are not all immoral. Likewise, (and unfortunately so), people who do read the bible seems to use it to go down a destructive and harmful path.

The communal domain means that morals are a part of our spirituality, but not necessary only for people who are christians. This makes me happy because it’s something that makes sense, that doesn’t view God in a bad light and can also make peace with secularist.

There are many reasons why I think we as humans are bad at developing spiritually, but one reason I’ll point out is that we don’t link inter personal relations and morality with the communal domain of spirituality. We don’t realise this aspect of these things.

Environment domain

Environmental domain—beyond care and nurture for the physical and biological, to a sense of awe and wonder; for some, the notion of unity with the environment.

 

The indigenous people of America were good at this. They were one with nature. They were in awe of the nature surrounding them and some took it to far and worshiped nature. One of my purpose in life is to care for the people around me, the resources we share and also the animals that are under our mercy and rule. I’m not a tree climbing girl or an outdoors person, so this domain is one that I admit I need the most work on.

At the same time, I think these three domains are pretty difficult and there isn’t a lot of guidance for spiritual development. It’s a good thing that this year, I’m asking questions and I’m exploring spirituality in general but also on a personal note.

This is a journey I’m taking this year. A journey of self identity, self awareness but also of taking care of what I have and the friends in my life.

Trascendental -relation with something beyond

Transcendental domain—relationship of self with some-thing or some-One beyond the human level (i.e., ultimate concern, cosmic force, transcendent reality or God). This involves faith towards, adoration and worship of, the source of Mystery of the universe [41].

Russell Brand is an example of someone with a good relationship with the transcendence. If you watch any of his videos on youtube, you’ll soon be able to see how the transcendence, and his belief in something beyond that which we can see, has helped to shape and form the man he is today.

Transcendence is probably the domain that most people associate with spirituality with the exception of those who are “spiritual but not religious”.

Fun fact: I technically fall under this category as I don’t think of myself as religious, but I digress.

I used to be a panicky little squirrel who was concerned for people who didn’t know what would happen after they died. I was scared of hell. Today, I spit in hell’s open pit. But I’m still on edge a little bit. Like with WBC, it’s something I can’t completely let go of and if you don’t understand, you will when I write about my heavy heart.

I think I was going about things the wrong way. It’s not the transcendent domain that’s the important bit, it’s all the other domains that are actually important to everyone even to secularists.

Because we all will go through death but no one ever talks about it.

We all have questions but no one seems to provide us with answers.

We all want good relationships but there are a lot that gets in the way of that.

So, I think, personally, I should focus on the other three domains, connect with this world that I’m in, this life that I have right now, develop in these three domains and hopefully one day, help others develop spirituality in these domains too.

 

 

 

 

You realise the top buttons work, right?

Hey everyone, today is a lighter post which seems appropriate since it’s the last time I’m going to write about or even mention WBC. I mean, I won’t forget them and I will probably write about them in the future but that’s in the far distance.

I’d like to quickly point you to the links at the top of my website which are where I keep all my pages for your convenience. Today’s post is actually at the top under the heading, “company”.

It’s a poem about WBC. It could just as easily have been under the heading, “care”, but I thought “company” was a good reminder that the world gets very small when we have to share it with someone we hate.

So, as hard a sit might be, let’s not have hatred in our hearts. Let’s surround ourselves with good company, and not haters.

One last thing about WBC and other haters out there

I feel sorry for them. Even more than my other emotions, disgust, hatred, anger, sadness, above all of them, I pity them. A lot.

 

Please keep checking the top links for more pages. I will write a mix of pages and posts. Thanks.

A reminder

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