Camp April nanowrimo update: It’s not looking good

My book for camp April Nanowrimo is not looking too good. I haven’t been working on it since the first day. On the first of April, I wrote a lot of words, like, 6,000 words in two sessions. It was awesome. I was tired and I thought I’m definitely not doing this every day. And I didn’t.

Back then, I was writing a story called, “Lizarm”. But over this last week, I have been working on a different story. It’s the very first story that I tried to write 9 years ago when I decided I wanted to become a writer. I wrote a list of all the ways I had failed in the past, getting my inspiration and motivation from the wise words of Edison.

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That made me feel better. It felt more like a science experiment, using the PPDAC cycle, rather than writing an impossibly long story.

I’ve written 6,000 words in the past week but I haven’t added them to my word count on the Camp website. This is because I’m not counting my words and I’m not looking to win. I’ve been a lot more relaxed that way. I’m still doing camp and enjoying every minute of it. But this time, it’s not going to be about winning. It’s going to be about the quality of the words. -writing something I can actually go back later and edit.

So, I’ve changed course a little bit, and set a course for a different destination than the one I had in mind but it’s all worthwhile because I’m a writer. That’s all that matters.

 

Why did God make women? Ep 3.

Please God,

Let this be the final episode. You know I can’t stand this.

Thank you for the day,

In Jesus name I pray,

Amen.

Hello, it’s me, Ching Ern. My name’s not important but anyways, here’s what I’m hoping to be the final episode of my response to “Why did God make woman?” a grammatically incorrect blog post written by BiblicalGenderroles.com

To make this the final episode, and because there’s so much content to go through and use, I will skip a few paragraphs. I’m happy to do so because it’s about to get very serious and offensive. To keep this PC, I will give you three detox videos. Here’s the first one:

The bible is ‘clear’ that women are inferior and unequal to that of men. So, now that it’s clear for you, the question is, Why did God make woman to be a subordinate helper to Man?

My response and take on this:

  1. As I’ve explained in my previous episodes, women, females and wives were created equal to the male counterpart, and to join together to take dominion and care over the earth, animals and people.
  2. It even says so in the footnotes of the AMP bible
  3. The greek word for submit, is “Hupotasso” which comes from two words, “Hupo” meaning, “under”, and “tasso” meaning, “1. to put in order 2. to appoint”. I’ll further explain the meaning of Hupotasso later but first: Please remember to like, follow and leave a comment.

To follow along with Jimmy’s response: 10:08

Here are my other thoughts and answers to this:

  1. I have a tension headache
  2. Women were created to help men just like how God sent the holy spirit to be our helpers. But women are not perfect helpers as demonstrated by Eve when she ate the fruit from the tree of knowledge of Good and Evil. In fact, in all the commandments that are in the bible, it’s like God is saying, “I’ll let you humans try to be holy and righteous on your own efforts, and then when you realize you can’t do it, I’ll do it myself and show you up.”
  3. My point is, although Eve was created to help Adam in taking care of the earth, the holy spirit is a much better companion and helper for all because the holy spirit is perfect and humans are flawed. We were flawed before we ate that fruit.
  4. I need a vodka tonic, hold the tonic. But since I don’t drink, here’s another detox video:

 

Two verses

I don’t condone the use of “cherry picking” bible verses but I’m going to do it anyway since this is a response to a blog post and not a sermon. According to the blog post, Christian Egalitarians claim that man’s ownership over women were not part of the original plan but only happened because of that darn fruit. The CE people uses this one verse to support their claim. This verse can be found in the New Testament of the bible and was part of a letter written by Apostle Paul, to a church, after the death, resurrection and ascension of Jesus. Please note also, that they’re using the KJV and I’m using AMP.

Galatians 3:28 (AMP)

There is [now no distinction in regard to salvation] neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you [who believe] are all one in Christ Jesus [no one can claim a spiritual superority].

I don’t know why the KJV is a lot shorter but in any case, it seems AMP is clearer than KJV in terms of translating text into English while still conveying the original meaning.

The blog’s counter-argument, also taken from one verse and from Ephesians, also written from Apostle Paul to a church, states that;

Marriage like Christ in the church

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as [a service] to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives should be subject to their husbands in everything [respecting both their position as protector and their responsibility to God as head of the house].

(Eph 5:22-24)

The writer is trying to argue that wives need and were made to submit to their husbands, under their authority and leadership. Wives do not have a say in anything.

This brings me to the meaning of the word “Hupotasso” or in English, “submit”.

And now, presenting, a Greek lesson

The word “Hupotasso” comes from two words, “Hupo” and “Tasso”. The word, “Tasso” has more information so I will focus on this as well as what my AMP footnotes say.

From bible study tools.com, “Tasso” means:

  1. to put in order, to station
    1. to place in a certain order, to arrange, to assign a place, to appoint
      1. to assign (appoint) a thing to one
    2. to appoint, ordain, order
      1. to appoint on one’s own responsibility or authority
      2. to appoint mutually, i.e. agree upon

My AMP footnote comments on these verses that:

  1. The Greek word for “submit” does not refer to being under the total control of another but to voluntarily place oneself under the authority of another.

Why should wives, or for that matter, women, voluntarily and willingly put/place/station/appoint themselves under the authority of a husband or man?

I think it all comes to pride. Allow me to jump from verse to verse and do a bit of cherry picking or “connecting of verses together”:

Let’s go back to the beginning:

As I flip my heavy bible back to Genesis, here’s a video for y’all:

In Genesis 3: 16, God gives snakes, men and women curses as punishment for eating that darn fruit and disobeying Him. For women, particularly wives, God says that “Yet your desire and longing will be for your husband, And he will rule [with authority] over you and be responsible for you.”

The footnote of AMP says, “The word, ‘desire’ can also mean, ‘an attempt to usurp authority or control’. (To paraphrase), “You will now have a tendency to try to dominate your husband and he will have the tendency to act as a tyrant.”

Marriage must be built on trust, communication, consent, and respect. We need to humble ourselves and work on our pride problem. Wives must willingly submit to the authority of her husband in the same way that husbands must willingly submit to the authority of Jesus. Another way to put this is everyone must submit under the authority of Jesus as we are part of the bride of Christ and he is our bridegroom.

It is significant or is supposed to be significant to get married and to make this decision. It takes a special kind of guy to, first of all, have a woman to willingly “submit”/”tasso” and to also be the leader of his family. This is why I’m not going to get married to anyone but Jesus. And no, I’m not at all thinking of how big his…

Another point I’d like to make (I could point to a few bible verses but I can also say this from common sense), is that wives need to listen to her husband and husbands need to love his wife. If wives tend to want control, then they must fight against that and “let it go”. If husbands tend to act as a tyrant, then they must fight against that and love their wife. But y’all need to stop focussing on women who like control, and start focussing on the responsibilities and expectations of both wives and husbands, females and males. As a feminist, Egalitarian, Christian and someone who’s angry at this blog post, I hope that what I’m saying can make sense to some of you out there.

There are a lot more to say on this but for this particular blog post article and youtube video, this is the end of my response and answer to “Why did God make woman?”

Thank you JESUS that it didn’t take longer than three episodes, although I probably will one day write more blog posts that address the issue of misogyny and other problems that arise from the misinterpretation of the bible.

Time to detox Y’all, like, hard out

Social capital-what is it and how do we get it?

What is social capital?

Social capital is, “The network of relationships between people, who work and live together to create a functioning society.” (Definition from Google)

But what does this actually mean? I think examples will help us understand Social capital better.

Here are some ways to increase your social capital:

  • Start a youtube channel
  • quality time with people
  • Toast masters
  • increase participating in current groups/clubs
  • trust exercises
  • team building activities
  • being trustworthy and reliable
  • serving others with no hidden agenda or ‘counting’
  • solving problems together

Building social capital is more than just talking to people and it’s not only for extroverts. Social Capital is about making meaningful relationships with other people. You’re not friends with someone because of what they can do for you, but because you value them as a person and you genuinely care about their interests, worries and knowledge.

Let’s go a little bit deeper into each bullet point to better understand how we can build our social capital.

1. Start a youtube channel

This is something I’ve tried to do many times before but failed. I think I might’ve failed in the past because I didn’t have a set goal or focus in mind and because I didn’t work with other people. Being a youtuber means working with people, making sure that your content is good, meets the intended purpose and for the intended audience, and is something people would actually be interested in.

From experience, I’d say it’s easy to create a youtube account and to make the first few videos. But after the first few, without anyone viewing or commenting your videos, it can feel isolating-something that’s the opposite of what social capital is about.

So if you’re looking for a quick way to build social capital, being a youtuber is not one. You need to have patience, determination, a subject you’re passionate about, a team, and technical skills. But in terms of slowly building an audience, it’s a good one. Also keep in mind, that if you love making videos or if you have knowledge in a subject, it doesn’t hurt to make youtube videos just for the fun of it.

2. Quality time with people

This is probably the cheapest but trickiest way to build social capital. On one hand, it’s an obvious way, but on the other hand, having high quality time with others can be really challenging. Quality time does not mean eating together, watching tv, playing a game or watching a movie. Quality time tends to mean talking and not everyone likes that. For the introverts, this can be particularly difficult. But quality time, also means listening, not just talking or “waiting for your turn to speak”.

The reason why I say “Quality time TENDS to mean talking”, is because everyone’s idea of quality time is different. For me, I love playing games with my friends. Maybe I don’t get to know about their boyfriend, or a laptop that they recently bought, but I can laugh with them, share jokes and make memories that are meaningful to me. The best times in my childhood was when I played games with my friends.

3. Toast Masters

From what I know of Toast Masters, it’s not available everywhere and it’s not free either. However, for the people who have time and can afford this, I think it’s worth it. I haven’t attended this myself but it looks trustworthy, like somewhere to go to build on public speaking and confidence skills.

4. Increase participation in current groups/clubs

This is something I have to work on in the group that I’m in which is the RICE internship. I need to pick my work off the floor and carry it on my shoulders. I believe that people notice hard workers. But I wouldn’t participate more to be noticed or acknowledged. I want to work hard because I’m passionate about what I believe in and because I don’t want to let my team down.

5. Mathex group

Most of the bullet points (See above) can be under the same heading. I’ve named the heading Mathex group because Mathex is when you’re in groups and you need to work together for a common goal. Social capital is all about building trust in relationships with people. It is about working as a team and using all of your different strengths and knowledge together, to create something you couldn’t have created on your own and solve problems together.

6. Serving others with no hidden agenda or ‘counting’

My sister is very bad at this. She would do something nice for me and then later on, ask me to do something for her. If I don’t want to do it, she reminds me of what she did for me. It makes me feel ungrateful and resentful towards her. So a word of advice, if you’re going to be nice to someone, do it with a cheerful heart and out of love. Don’t count your good deeds. Good relationship is about doing things for each other spontaneously, not because we owe each other anything.

I hope that these six ways of building social capital has helped you to understand what social capital is and how we can build this in our lives.

When I write my post about why we need social capital, I’ll post it right, ‘here’.

But for now, good bye and let’s get social capital building!

 

 

 

 

Home

Some people have a home without a house,
They’re poor but happy,
They have much but they’re content,
They don’t eat out often,
But they never go to bed hungry,
They’re looked down on by society but they have family.
I wished my life could be like and yet,

I have a house to call home,
But I’m not always happy,
I have a lot of things
But I’m never satisfied,
I eat a lot,
But sometimes I’m still hungry for more.

Why is my life different from theirs? Is it even possible to always be happy?
Or maybe those people talking and laughing together,
The ones who don’t have a mortgage because they are unemployed,
Have something more than happiness,
Something better than happiness,
Perhaps they have peace,
Joy,
Love.

Yes, I think that’s what it is,
and day by day,
Slowly, like the turtle who once raced against a hare,
I discover
that I have these things too.

 

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Ah Boys to Men frenzy

Have you heard of the film, “Ah Boys to men”? If you’re not a Singaporean then you probably haven’t. As my cousin would say, “Aiyo! How can one?”

That’s singlish, by the way.

 

This is a song from the first movie. Yes, I will be posting one video for every movie. How did you know that? Seriously, you’ve got to check it out. Watch the trailers on Youtube, watch the movie, twitter, and stuff. The whole nine.

It’s okay if you don’t understand some of the words. Somethings only singaporeans will understand but you’ll still enjoy the song as a whole. They’re all quite catchy and shoik.

 

5 things to do on Mother’s Day

What are you going to do this Mother’s day?

I know what I’m going to do. Here are five things that you can do too to make Mother’s day that much more special to the women in your life.

  1. Tell her, “I love you”. Say to all the women in your life that you love them. They don’t hear it that often and will appreciate you having the courage and sincerity to say so. Actions speak louder than words but sometimes, it’s nice to just say how you feel in a straightforward manner.
  2. The Classic breakfast in bed-Don’t do this if you can’t cook. It’s not cute. If you know your mother’s go to breakfast, that’s even better!
  3. Reminisce on the good times-share just with your mum or your family the times when your mum helped you out, took care of your when you were sick or did or said something that even now, you are grateful.
  4. Make a card-and sent it to everyone in the family so that everyone can write their own special message. One of the few people who keeps cards are mothers.
  5. Create a gift-be creative and artistic. Or be a handyman for the day. Do a craft activity to create your own present to give. Your mum will appreciate that it is your handiwork and not store bought. My mum likes purple and black and her favourite animal is the cat. I’m going to use this info to draw and then paint artwork for her to keep and cherish forever.

 

Spoken word: Easter

Easter is more than a public holiday, more than chocolates and hot cross buns. Easter is more than a weekend or a one-day celebration. Easter is about something so special, magical and wonderful.

It is about our Lord and savior who lived, died and rose back to life for us.

Now you might be thinking, why would anyone need the motivation to rise back to life? If I died and had the chance to not be dead, I would gladly take it. I don’t need to live for anyone other than myself.

Yet the resurrection of Jesus Christ was for us. He was raised back to life for our forgiveness, our justification, our redemption.

Isn’t that wonderful?

I don’t talk about this much in the video because it’s a “back to basics” video on Easter and it’s also because I have the video making skills of a 6-year-old. This means in terms of content, simple is the key. Regardless or perhaps because of its simple nature, he content is a treasure. I was excited when I had this idea of “Show me” and I hope you do too.

Now I know watching videos aren’t for everyone but I don’t want to give any spoilers for the video. I’ll end my written message here. As for the video… Watch it, don’t watch it. Up to you. Happy Easter.